Twenty-Something and Confused with Life? Me too!

Why it's okay to be unsure of how you want your life to turn out or how to get there.

Twenty-Something and Confused with Life? Me too!

Social Media has replaced reunions from both college and high school. Before, you had to wait at least 5 years to see who was successful and who is still trying to pursue their million dollar idea of starting a harmonica band. Now, I get to see first-hand that the kids I graduated with are going to school to become doctors or lawyers. Or,they might already have a kick-a#% job, like marketing coordinator for General Motors. Some have even become the root of all my envy and have found a way to not only travel the world, but also make money doing it. (I still follow them on all their social media just to live vicariously through them). They all seem to be so successful and happy. Don’t get me wrong I’m not that bitter and I really am happy that they were able to get this far after college graduation. But, I do have one question for them…HOW?! HOW IS YOUR LIFE SO TOGETHER?!

As a twenty-two year old with no direction on where to go and what I was meant to do society is adding pressure to think I should believe that I am a failure and I should be having a mental breakdown with every meal. However, I have had to come to terms that it’s not who I am and not what should be happening for me. Growing up all I wanted to do was make a lot of money so I could put that towards helping everyone and everything. I wanted to help protect the Earth from global warming, I wanted to stop world hunger, I wanted to build a home for those who didn’t have one…I wanted to fix everything. It infuriates me now that this dream seems so unattainable. However, how would I ever grow as a person, if right after college I got a great job with a great apartment in Downtown LA and never go through with at least a little bit of struggle. I would be the same frizzy haired girl from high school. How would I grow? Who would want to live like that?

Okay, well I would like to get off the dinosaur chicken nuggets and ramen diet but, I have learned to appreciate vegetables a little more, even brussel sprouts. I have appreciatedthe luxury of having fruit in the house and the toilet paper from mom's house. I have even missed watching the news since cable is too expensive and everything I watch is either on Netflix or Youtube. I have grown to appreciate things I never considered a luxury before. Although I haven’t truly realized it and haven’t struggled as much as others I have grown as a person. I’m not becoming a doctor and you’re all welcome for that, because science was never my forte. I’m also not making 6 figures a year and living in a nice apartment. I'm also not alone in not knowing what to do or where to begin. We’re only in our twenties.

I have seen many people I have grown up with and lived with in college, really succeed at this whole“adult” thing. And, thanks to social media I have an opening to see every accomplishment that they have. Instagram displays every nice apartment that they rent and their rooms all decked out. LinkedIn shows all their promotions and success at work. I wish them all the success and happiness, but for me at this point in my life, I don’t want to have my life figured out. I don’t want to have all my dreams lined up and success after success. I know that sounds crazy, but honestly I’m in my twenties. I have so much left to learn and discover. There’s so much out there that I haven’t experienced. I haven’t even bought a car without my dad asking the important questions. I don’t deserve to have my life figured out just yet, because I barely understand who I am as an individual. I mean I have some indication like I know for a fact I don’t like the texture or taste of steak and dirty dishes in the sink are my pet peeve,but there is much more to discover on who I am and who I want to become.

Once I stopped comparing my own life to the day to day reunion on every social media platform,I suddenly realized how far I came. Yes, I have a long way to go and only myself will be able to take me there, but I also got myself this far. I am a twenty-something who doesn’t have their life together what so ever and that’s okay. We’re all in different stages of life despite our age, education, and where we live. We’re all different and we all need different things. Social media fails to remind us this and constantly reminds us that people will always be happier, richer, more successful, or “the grass is always greener on the other side”. You are where you need to be, but not where you will always be. 

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